{"id":1837059,"date":"2026-03-20T13:08:00","date_gmt":"2026-03-20T10:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1837059"},"modified":"2026-03-20T13:08:00","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T10:08:00","slug":"what-makes-a-good-sex-song","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1837059","title":{"rendered":"What makes a good sex song?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[analyse_image type=&#8221;featured&#8221; src=&#8221;https:\/\/images-prod.dazeddigital.com\/657\/0-0-657-438\/azure\/dazed-prod\/1440\/2\/1442096.jpg&#8221;]<\/p>\n<article class=\"main-article standard \">\n<div class=\"article-main-content article-wrapper has-media-but-its-an-image\" data-status=\"loaded\" data-primary-article=\"true\" data-url=\"\/music\/article\/69948\/1\/what-makes-a-good-sex-song-playlist-music-bedroom-relationships-dating\" data-article-id=\"69948\">\n<header class=\"article-header has-landscape-image no-media\">\n<div class=\"wrapper dg-max-width\">\n<div class=\"inner\">\n<figure class=\"main-img has-figcaption\" data-img-aspect-ratio-type=\"landscape\" data-img-aspect-ratio=\"1.78\" data-template=\"Standard Article\"><span class=\"has-css-custom-props image-container\" data-aspect-ratio-type=\"landscape\"><span class=\"preserve-aspect-ratio\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"everybody-serves-somebody-1726931770\" class=\"img\" height=\"438\" src=\"https:\/\/images-prod.dazeddigital.com\/780\/azure\/dazed-prod\/1440\/2\/1442096.jpg\" width=\"780\"><\/span><\/span><figcaption class=\"img-caption\"><span class=\"inner\"><span class=\"credit\">Anora<\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<aside class=\"meta\">\n<div class=\"inner\"><time datetime=\"2026-03-20T13:08:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"20 March 2026\"><span class=\"month\">March<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"20\">20,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<div class=\"titles\">\n<div class=\"tags\">\n<div class=\"sections\"><a class=\"category vertical - music\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/music\">Music<\/a><br \/>\n\/<br \/>\n<a class=\"series\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/feature\">Feature<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"standard-tag-container\"><a class=\"standard-category\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/music\">Music<\/a> \/<br \/>\n<a class=\"standard-series\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/feature\">Feature<\/a><\/div>\n<h1 class=\"title\"><span>What makes a good <span class=\"nowrap\">sex song?<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div class=\"standfirst\">\n<h2>Many of us have playlists curated for our most intimate moments \u2013 but everyone has a different take on what makes a song <span class=\"nowrap\">feel \u2018sexy\u2019<\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p><time datetime=\"2026-03-20T13:08:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"20 March 2026\"><span class=\"month\">March<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"20\">20,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><time datetime=\"2026-03-20T13:08:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"20 March 2026\"><span class=\"month\">March<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"20\">20,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/p>\n<div class=\"providers\">\n<div class=\"contributors\"><span class=\"contributor\" data-contributor-role=\"Text\"><span class=\"contributor-role\">Text<\/span><a class=\"contributor-name\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/user\/KaraShanahan\">Kara Shanahan<\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n<div class=\"article-body-container\">\n<div class=\"article-body wrapper\">\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>Picture this: you\u2019ve invited your Hinge match back to your place, covertly brushed your teeth and re-deoderised in the bathroom, and now you need some music to set the tone for the rest of the evening. What are you reaching for first? Is it an eclectic playlist you curated, mysteriously titled with the purple devil emoji? Maybe it\u2019s a single album \u2013 something by The Internet or Clairo? Or perhaps you think silence is golden? Whatever your preference, one thing is clear \u2013 everyone has a different take on what constitutes good bedroom music.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Among those who choose to play music, the range is broad. 22-year-old Jean* loves the hypnotic feeling that rock and metal gives her \u2013 specifically, London-born rock band, Sleep Token. \u201cThere are some songs in their discography that are so sensual that they automatically make you feel some sort of way [&#8230;] the guitar riffs automatically make me aroused,\u201d she tells Dazed. Leah, a 25-year-old from Glasgow,\u00a0 prefers \u201cdreamy\u201d hip hop. \u201cI love Kevin Abstract\u2019s <\/span><em><span>American Boyfriend<\/span><\/em><span> and <\/span><em><span>Arizona Baby<\/span><\/em><span>, they\u2019re both really sexy,\u201d she says. \u201cWhen I was younger, I used to think about how they were quite \u2018adult\u2019 albums, so there\u2019s nostalgia in it, too. Powerful emotions always make an intense experience better.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Across the board, there are some consistencies in what we listen to in the bedroom: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.euronews.com\/culture\/2024\/06\/13\/sultry-sounds-study-reveals-what-music-people-prefer-during-sex\"><span>one 2024 survey<\/span><\/a><span> found that pop, hip hop, and R&amp;B are the most popular genres on dedicated Spotify sex playlists. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/tag\/the-weeknd\">The Weeknd<\/a> is also widely regarded as the king of freaky music, as the brains behind three out of the five most popular sex songs on the aforementioned survey (just don\u2019t be surprised if you get red-flag allegations after turning on \u201cOften\u201d, an anthem for toxicity and emotional detachment).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-tiktok\" data-id=\"7455339253044628768\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>But in an era when algorithms promote homogeneity, and many of us yearn to stand out, it can be a bit corny to put on something too obviously sexy like \u201cBirthday Sex\u201d by Jeremih or \u201cOr Nah\u201d by Ty Dolla $ign. If you\u2019re trying to seduce a <em>Secretary<\/em>-watching, Leonard-Cohen-worshipping, esoteric diva, this is likely to be a major ick. \u201cSongs that are viewed as \u2018sexy songs\u2019 I find really unsexy in a bedroom space. Not to call out The Weeknd, but that\u2019s where I draw the line,\u201d says 22-year-old Jayden. \u201cGirl no. I would start laughing.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Focus is a really important aspect, too \u2013 it\u2019s usually less about what specific music is being played and more about whether it\u2019ll be distracting. \u201cSongs in the bedroom should feel like furniture: they give structure to the room without demanding attention to themselves,\u201d says 26-year-old Mateo. Wordy, overly-explicit, violent or funny songs can immediately take you out of the moment (who could forget the \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.independent.co.uk\/arts-entertainment\/music\/news\/hudson-mohawke-cbat-itunes-sex-reddit-b2160623.html\"><span>Cbat\u201d sex-song scandal of 2022<\/span><\/a><span>). Or worse \u2013 a song that closes with an extended vocal skit that has you thinking someone\u2019s broken into your flat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>It\u2019s such a minefield that some of us are opting out of music in the bedroom altogether. \u201cSex is already quite overstimulating; it\u2019s literally all of your senses dialled up to 100,\u201d says Jayden. \u201cAs someone with ADHD, if there\u2019s another layer added to that, it just gets to be far too much.\u201d For Leah, \u201cthe sounds of sex\u201d are sexy enough. That being said, she still enjoys music in the bedroom, especially after getting a record player. Having one cohesive album takes the stress off of finding the \u2018right thing\u2019 to play and allows you to be more \u201cactively present\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<blockquote>\n<p><span>Songs in the bedroom should feel like furniture: they give structure to the room without demanding attention to themselves<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>It\u2019s also fair to say that the type of music you put on depends on the kind of relationship you have with the person (or people) you\u2019re getting under the covers with. Setting the mood might not be your top priority with your current low-commitment, non-monogamous, emotionally taxing situationship. Similarly, if it\u2019s a drunken one-night stand, it\u2019s unlikely anyone\u2019s lighting a candle or putting on smooth jazz. Mateo also points out that \u201cthe locations for queer fucking have historically been precarious and have not allowed for a \u2018vibe\u2019 to be set. If you\u2019re cruising, more often than not, you\u2019ll have to make do with a shitty intercom radio playing Imagine Dragons.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Why does setting the mood matter in the first place? \u201cContext is everything,\u201d says <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/radicallove.co.uk\/\"><span>Cassie Rattray<\/span><\/a><span>, sex educator and activist. \u201cIf we feel stressed, rushed, disconnected, or distracted by the dog, it\u2019s going to be much harder for us to be present and for our body to respond.\u201d Music, then, gets us out of our heads and into the present moment. \u201cThe right environment can help create the sexual context you need to forget about fear, anxiety, work stress or whatever else is putting your foot on the breaks, giving you a better chance of having fulfilling, pleasurable sex,\u201d she continues.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>When there is the opportunity to create a more intentional atmosphere, music is an incredibly powerful tool. It\u2019s a sort of \u201csensory anchor,\u201d Rattray says; a way to detach from the day-to-day chaos and ground yourself in a more sensual and relaxed environment. Not only does it <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/mmd.iammonline.com\/index.php\/musmed\/article\/view\/442\"><span>lower our cortisol levels<\/span><\/a><span>, but it also activates our emotional reward system, contributing to an even better sexual experience. \u201c[Music] triggers a release of dopamine, which can heighten anticipation and pleasure, and can make touch and movement feel more intense,\u201d she adds.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Whether you\u2019re listening to Sleep Token, putting on the same trusty Netflix film for background noise, or opting for nothing at all, what\u2019s most important is communication. 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Get The Drop<\/h1>\n<div class=\"meta-row\">\n<p class=\"meta\">Get must-see stories direct to your inbox every weekday.<\/p>\n<p class=\"paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/privacy-policy\" class=\"meta-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\nPrivacy policy<br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"confirmation\" aria-live=\"polite\">\n<p class=\"confirmation-title\">Thank you. You have been subscribed<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/privacy-policy\" class=\"meta-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\nPrivacy policy<br \/>\n<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<div class=\"article-body wrapper\">\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>Picture this: you\u2019ve invited your Hinge match back to your place, covertly brushed your teeth and re-deoderised in the bathroom, and now you need some music to set the tone for the rest of the evening. What are you reaching for first? Is it an eclectic playlist you curated, mysteriously titled with the purple devil emoji? Maybe it\u2019s a single album \u2013 something by The Internet or Clairo? Or perhaps you think silence is golden? Whatever your preference, one thing is clear \u2013 everyone has a different take on what constitutes good bedroom music.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Among those who choose to play music, the range is broad. 22-year-old Jean* loves the hypnotic feeling that rock and metal gives her \u2013 specifically, London-born rock band, Sleep Token. \u201cThere are some songs in their discography that are so sensual that they automatically make you feel some sort of way [&#8230;] the guitar riffs automatically make me aroused,\u201d she tells Dazed. Leah, a 25-year-old from Glasgow,\u00a0 prefers \u201cdreamy\u201d hip hop. \u201cI love Kevin Abstract\u2019s <\/span><em><span>American Boyfriend<\/span><\/em><span> and <\/span><em><span>Arizona Baby<\/span><\/em><span>, they\u2019re both really sexy,\u201d she says. \u201cWhen I was younger, I used to think about how they were quite \u2018adult\u2019 albums, so there\u2019s nostalgia in it, too. Powerful emotions always make an intense experience better.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Across the board, there are some consistencies in what we listen to in the bedroom: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.euronews.com\/culture\/2024\/06\/13\/sultry-sounds-study-reveals-what-music-people-prefer-during-sex\"><span>one 2024 survey<\/span><\/a><span> found that pop, hip hop, and R&amp;B are the most popular genres on dedicated Spotify sex playlists. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/tag\/the-weeknd\">The Weeknd<\/a> is also widely regarded as the king of freaky music, as the brains behind three out of the five most popular sex songs on the aforementioned survey (just don\u2019t be surprised if you get red-flag allegations after turning on \u201cOften\u201d, an anthem for toxicity and emotional detachment).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-tiktok\" data-id=\"7455339253044628768\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>But in an era when algorithms promote homogeneity, and many of us yearn to stand out, it can be a bit corny to put on something too obviously sexy like \u201cBirthday Sex\u201d by Jeremih or \u201cOr Nah\u201d by Ty Dolla $ign. If you\u2019re trying to seduce a <em>Secretary<\/em>-watching, Leonard-Cohen-worshipping, esoteric diva, this is likely to be a major ick. \u201cSongs that are viewed as \u2018sexy songs\u2019 I find really unsexy in a bedroom space. Not to call out The Weeknd, but that\u2019s where I draw the line,\u201d says 22-year-old Jayden. \u201cGirl no. I would start laughing.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Focus is a really important aspect, too \u2013 it\u2019s usually less about what specific music is being played and more about whether it\u2019ll be distracting. \u201cSongs in the bedroom should feel like furniture: they give structure to the room without demanding attention to themselves,\u201d says 26-year-old Mateo. Wordy, overly-explicit, violent or funny songs can immediately take you out of the moment (who could forget the \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.independent.co.uk\/arts-entertainment\/music\/news\/hudson-mohawke-cbat-itunes-sex-reddit-b2160623.html\"><span>Cbat\u201d sex-song scandal of 2022<\/span><\/a><span>). Or worse \u2013 a song that closes with an extended vocal skit that has you thinking someone\u2019s broken into your flat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>It\u2019s such a minefield that some of us are opting out of music in the bedroom altogether. \u201cSex is already quite overstimulating; it\u2019s literally all of your senses dialled up to 100,\u201d says Jayden. \u201cAs someone with ADHD, if there\u2019s another layer added to that, it just gets to be far too much.\u201d For Leah, \u201cthe sounds of sex\u201d are sexy enough. That being said, she still enjoys music in the bedroom, especially after getting a record player. Having one cohesive album takes the stress off of finding the \u2018right thing\u2019 to play and allows you to be more \u201cactively present\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<blockquote>\n<p><span>Songs in the bedroom should feel like furniture: they give structure to the room without demanding attention to themselves<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>It\u2019s also fair to say that the type of music you put on depends on the kind of relationship you have with the person (or people) you\u2019re getting under the covers with. Setting the mood might not be your top priority with your current low-commitment, non-monogamous, emotionally taxing situationship. Similarly, if it\u2019s a drunken one-night stand, it\u2019s unlikely anyone\u2019s lighting a candle or putting on smooth jazz. Mateo also points out that \u201cthe locations for queer fucking have historically been precarious and have not allowed for a \u2018vibe\u2019 to be set. If you\u2019re cruising, more often than not, you\u2019ll have to make do with a shitty intercom radio playing Imagine Dragons.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Why does setting the mood matter in the first place? \u201cContext is everything,\u201d says <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/radicallove.co.uk\/\"><span>Cassie Rattray<\/span><\/a><span>, sex educator and activist. \u201cIf we feel stressed, rushed, disconnected, or distracted by the dog, it\u2019s going to be much harder for us to be present and for our body to respond.\u201d Music, then, gets us out of our heads and into the present moment. \u201cThe right environment can help create the sexual context you need to forget about fear, anxiety, work stress or whatever else is putting your foot on the breaks, giving you a better chance of having fulfilling, pleasurable sex,\u201d she continues.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>When there is the opportunity to create a more intentional atmosphere, music is an incredibly powerful tool. It\u2019s a sort of \u201csensory anchor,\u201d Rattray says; a way to detach from the day-to-day chaos and ground yourself in a more sensual and relaxed environment. Not only does it <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/mmd.iammonline.com\/index.php\/musmed\/article\/view\/442\"><span>lower our cortisol levels<\/span><\/a><span>, but it also activates our emotional reward system, contributing to an even better sexual experience. \u201c[Music] triggers a release of dopamine, which can heighten anticipation and pleasure, and can make touch and movement feel more intense,\u201d she adds.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Whether you\u2019re listening to Sleep Token, putting on the same trusty Netflix film for background noise, or opting for nothing at all, what\u2019s most important is communication. Whether you\u2019re getting between the sheets with a two-year-long situationship or a one-night stand, it\u2019s always worth checking in<\/span><span> to make sure your partner is enjoying themselves (and your painstakingly curated death metal playlist) \u2013 or whether it\u2019s time to switch things up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span>*Name has been changed<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"newsletter-inline-last\">\n<div class=\"newsletter-small\">\n<div class=\"inner\">\n<h1 class=\"newsletter-title\">Escape the algorithm! Get The Drop<\/h1>\n<div class=\"meta-row\">\n<p class=\"meta\">Get must-see stories direct to your inbox every weekday.<\/p>\n<p class=\"paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/privacy-policy\" class=\"meta-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\nPrivacy policy<br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"confirmation\" aria-live=\"polite\">\n<p class=\"confirmation-title\">Thank you. 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