{"id":1775974,"date":"2026-02-17T11:18:00","date_gmt":"2026-02-17T08:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1775974"},"modified":"2026-02-17T11:18:00","modified_gmt":"2026-02-17T08:18:00","slug":"clone-love-why-couples-start-looking-like-each-other","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1775974","title":{"rendered":"Clone love: Why couples start looking like each other"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[analyse_image type=&#8221;featured&#8221; src=&#8221;https:\/\/images-prod.dazeddigital.com\/698\/0-47-698-465\/azure\/dazed-prod\/1430\/7\/1437804.png&#8221;]<\/p>\n<article class=\"main-article standard \">\n<div class=\"article-main-content article-wrapper has-media-but-its-an-image\" data-status=\"loaded\" data-primary-article=\"true\" data-url=\"\/beauty\/article\/69627\/1\/clone-love-why-couple-theory-looking-like-each-other-likeness-siblings-or-dating\" data-article-id=\"69627\">\n<header class=\"article-header has-portrait-image no-media\">\n<div class=\"wrapper dg-max-width\">\n<div class=\"inner\">\n<figure class=\"main-img no-figcaption\" data-img-aspect-ratio-type=\"portrait\" data-img-aspect-ratio=\"0.56\" data-template=\"Standard Article\"><span class=\"has-css-custom-props image-container\" data-aspect-ratio-type=\"portrait\"><span class=\"preserve-aspect-ratio\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Screenshot 2026-02-17 at 09.59.06\" class=\"img\" height=\"1254\" src=\"https:\/\/images-prod.dazeddigital.com\/698\/azure\/dazed-prod\/1430\/7\/1437804.png\" width=\"698\"><\/span><\/span><\/figure>\n<aside class=\"meta\">\n<div class=\"inner\"><time datetime=\"2026-02-17T11:18:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"17 February 2026\"><span class=\"month\">February<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"17\">17,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/div>\n<\/aside>\n<div class=\"titles\">\n<div class=\"tags\">\n<div class=\"sections\"><a class=\"category vertical - beauty\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/beauty\">Beauty<\/a><br \/>\n\/<br \/>\n<a class=\"series\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/beauty-feature\">Beauty Feature<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"standard-tag-container\"><a class=\"standard-category\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/beauty\">Beauty<\/a> \/<br \/>\n<a class=\"standard-series\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/beauty-feature\">Beauty Feature<\/a><\/div>\n<h1 class=\"title\"><span>Clone love: Why couples start looking like <span class=\"nowrap\">each other<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<div class=\"standfirst\">\n<h2>From the sociological tendency to be attracted to people who look like us, to couples that start merging into each other, is there anything sexier than <span class=\"nowrap\">dating ourselves?<\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p><time datetime=\"2026-02-17T11:18:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"17 February 2026\"><span class=\"month\">February<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"17\">17,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><time datetime=\"2026-02-17T11:18:00+00:00\" class=\"timestamp\" title=\"17 February 2026\"><span class=\"month\">February<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"day\" data-day=\"17\">17,<\/span>\u00a0<br \/>\n<span class=\"year\">2026<\/span><\/time><\/p>\n<div class=\"providers\">\n<div class=\"contributors\"><span class=\"contributor\" data-contributor-role=\"Text\"><span class=\"contributor-role\">Text<\/span><a class=\"contributor-name\" href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/user\/IsabellaGreenwood\">Isabella Greenwood<\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/header>\n<div class=\"article-body-container\">\n<div class=\"article-body wrapper\">\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>Have you ever seen two people walking around, out and about, and thought, \u2018Isn\u2019t it nice to see siblings with such a lovely bond?\u2019 Until they start kissing, and you realise they aren\u2019t actually related at all. This incestual guessing game has become its own genre of content online. TikTok is full of doppelg\u00e4nger couples, like lesbian couple <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@carleyandmercedes\/video\/7111046418663574790?lang=en-GB\"><span>Carley and Mercedes,<\/span><\/a><span> who took a DNA test to prove they weren\u2019t related, while relationships go viral for proving \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@goodguyglez\/video\/7514444496243854635?lang=en-GB&amp;q=LOOK%20ALIKE%20tiktok%20couple&amp;t=1768479705484\"><span>Couple Theory<\/span><\/a><span>\u201d (a TikTok version of our attraction to likeness).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Instagram account <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/siblingsordating\/\"><span>Siblings or Dating?<\/span><\/a><span>, which launched in 2020 and has over one million followers, is filled with comments calling for couples to get DNA tests \u2018stat\u2019. \u201cThey met on Ancestry,\u201d jokes one commenter about a particularly uncanny couple. The account started life as a Tumblr page in 2010, while another Tumblr account from 2014, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/boyfriendtwin.tumblr.com\/\"><span>Boyfriend Twin<\/span><\/a><span>, features gay couples who resemble each other and asks the question, \u201cWhat\u2019s sexier than dating yourself?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Helena Whittingham, a talent agent in her 30s, says people constantly mistake her and her partner for siblings \u2013 it\u2019s even the reason they met in the first place. \u201cWhen we met, it felt eerie but comforting, like being recognised rather than discovering something new.\u201d They now share clothes, aesthetics and even beauty habits too. \u201cWe live together, so we have the same hair routine. Sometimes I imagine his hair could grow into mine and we\u2019d just conjoin into one continuous mass.\u201d Whittingham admits there\u2019s \u201csomething slightly unsettling about it\u201d, but says she secretly enjoys that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Mo and Tuuli, a couple in their 20s, have received similar reactions to their relationship. \u201cA man at Glastonbury was frightened by our resemblance to the Cullens, mistaking us for goth siblings, and bought us free drinks,\u201d Tuuli says, with a laugh.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-tiktok\" data-id=\"7111046418663574790\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>These couples aren\u2019t just outliers; humans often mate with people who resemble them. \u201cPeople tend to partner with those who are similar to them, a pattern sociologists describe as assortative mating,\u201d explains Dr Jenny Van Hooff, a sociologist at Manchester Metropolitan University. \u201cIn contemporary dating cultures, similarity often functions as a shortcut for compatibility.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But it\u2019s not just that people initially gravitate towards a partner that resembles them. Research has found that even couples who initially bore little resemblance when first married will show increased facial resemblance over the years, particularly those who are happy in the relationship. The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/1987\/08\/11\/science\/long-married-couples-do-look-alike-study-finds.html\"><span>study was done in 1987 by Robert Zajonc<\/span><\/a><span>, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, who suggested the increase in facial similarity resulted from decades of shared emotions, shared environments and behavioural mimicry.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Sometimes the merging is more purposeful. Artists Genesis P-Orridge and Lady Jaye worked on their Pandrogyne Project for almost two decades, transforming their bodies via $200,000 worth of plastic surgery (including matching breast implants on Valentine\u2019s Day 2003), hormones and styling into one singular creation. Their project framed romantic merging both as devotion and experiment, asking what love looks like when identity itself becomes porous.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>In less extreme, but similar processes, couples are dying their hair matching colours, swapping wardrobes and syncing aesthetics to become a single visual unit. On social media, these synchronised fits, shared skincare routines and \u201cget ready with us\u201d videos can be seen as proof of romantic compatibility. \u2018They work so well visually\u2019 becomes shorthand for \u2018they\u2019re a good match\u2019. \u201cVisual similarity is often read as evidence of cohesion. Culturally, sameness gets interpreted as harmony, even though it tells us very little about how a relationship actually works,\u201d says Dr Van Hooff. \u201cIn image-led and algorithmic spaces, resemblance becomes an easily recognisable sign of intimacy.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"instagram-container embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-instagram\" data-script-depends=\"instagram-embeds\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>In queer culture, this urge to merge is practically a trope. From U-Haul jokes to butch-femme mimicry to TikTok\u2019s lesbian twins aesthetic, lovers folding into one another has long been part of the mythology. Tye, a writer in her 20s, remembers her ex shifting from high-femme long hair to a bleached pixie, the same cut Tye had at the time. \u201cI ended up resenting her for stealing my swag,\u201d she says. For some, mirroring can feel like flattery, until it starts to feel like theft. Olive, an artist in her late 20s, tells me she\u2019s changed with several partners: \u201cI don\u2019t think they took anything from me. But sometimes I wonder if I noticed what I was giving up.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>A lot of us slide into this without realising. Love quietly expands the borders of the self, stretching our habits towards another person. The more intimate we become, the more our sense of who we are begins to include who they are, from sharing the same beauty routine, haircut and brow shape to copying each other\u2019s aesthetics, quirks and even the way we hold ourselves in a room. Desire doesn\u2019t just want closeness; it wants alignment and a way of seeing and being seen that feels mutually recognisable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Aside from a healthy dose of mirroring, an unavoidable part of being in love, merging has a shadow side. Liv, a writer in her 20s, recalls an ex who made her his \u201cproject\u201d. \u201cI was the Bianca to his Ye,\u201d she says. \u201cHe made me throw out my neon thongs and my mini skirts. At 21, he had me dressing like him, a bitter Swedish architect.\u201d And even when a relationship ends, that mirroring doesn\u2019t always stop. For Paris-based artist Lisa Brok, her ex absorbed her aesthetic and reproduced it onto the next girl: \u201cSame hair. Same side fringe. Same styling. Same shots\u201d. In these cases, mirroring stops being intimacy and becomes a form of control, exposing the fine line between fusion and erasure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>\u201cMirroring is a normal part of intimacy, but it becomes concerning when it is no longer mutual or freely chosen. When sameness is expected, monitored, or performed for an audience, it can limit individuality and mask power imbalances within relationships,\u201d warns Dr Van Hooff. 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Get The Drop<\/h1>\n<div class=\"meta-row\">\n<p class=\"meta\">Get must-see stories direct to your inbox every weekday.<\/p>\n<p class=\"paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/privacy-policy\" class=\"meta-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\nPrivacy policy<br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"confirmation\" aria-live=\"polite\">\n<p class=\"confirmation-title\">Thank you. You have been subscribed<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/privacy-policy\" class=\"meta-link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><br \/>\nPrivacy policy<br \/>\n<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<div class=\"article-body wrapper\">\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>Have you ever seen two people walking around, out and about, and thought, \u2018Isn\u2019t it nice to see siblings with such a lovely bond?\u2019 Until they start kissing, and you realise they aren\u2019t actually related at all. This incestual guessing game has become its own genre of content online. TikTok is full of doppelg\u00e4nger couples, like lesbian couple <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@carleyandmercedes\/video\/7111046418663574790?lang=en-GB\"><span>Carley and Mercedes,<\/span><\/a><span> who took a DNA test to prove they weren\u2019t related, while relationships go viral for proving \u201c<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@goodguyglez\/video\/7514444496243854635?lang=en-GB&amp;q=LOOK%20ALIKE%20tiktok%20couple&amp;t=1768479705484\"><span>Couple Theory<\/span><\/a><span>\u201d (a TikTok version of our attraction to likeness).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Instagram account <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/siblingsordating\/\"><span>Siblings or Dating?<\/span><\/a><span>, which launched in 2020 and has over one million followers, is filled with comments calling for couples to get DNA tests \u2018stat\u2019. \u201cThey met on Ancestry,\u201d jokes one commenter about a particularly uncanny couple. The account started life as a Tumblr page in 2010, while another Tumblr account from 2014, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/boyfriendtwin.tumblr.com\/\"><span>Boyfriend Twin<\/span><\/a><span>, features gay couples who resemble each other and asks the question, \u201cWhat\u2019s sexier than dating yourself?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Helena Whittingham, a talent agent in her 30s, says people constantly mistake her and her partner for siblings \u2013 it\u2019s even the reason they met in the first place. \u201cWhen we met, it felt eerie but comforting, like being recognised rather than discovering something new.\u201d They now share clothes, aesthetics and even beauty habits too. \u201cWe live together, so we have the same hair routine. Sometimes I imagine his hair could grow into mine and we\u2019d just conjoin into one continuous mass.\u201d Whittingham admits there\u2019s \u201csomething slightly unsettling about it\u201d, but says she secretly enjoys that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Mo and Tuuli, a couple in their 20s, have received similar reactions to their relationship. \u201cA man at Glastonbury was frightened by our resemblance to the Cullens, mistaking us for goth siblings, and bought us free drinks,\u201d Tuuli says, with a laugh.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-tiktok\" data-id=\"7111046418663574790\">\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>These couples aren\u2019t just outliers; humans often mate with people who resemble them. \u201cPeople tend to partner with those who are similar to them, a pattern sociologists describe as assortative mating,\u201d explains Dr Jenny Van Hooff, a sociologist at Manchester Metropolitan University. \u201cIn contemporary dating cultures, similarity often functions as a shortcut for compatibility.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But it\u2019s not just that people initially gravitate towards a partner that resembles them. Research has found that even couples who initially bore little resemblance when first married will show increased facial resemblance over the years, particularly those who are happy in the relationship. The <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/1987\/08\/11\/science\/long-married-couples-do-look-alike-study-finds.html\"><span>study was done in 1987 by Robert Zajonc<\/span><\/a><span>, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, who suggested the increase in facial similarity resulted from decades of shared emotions, shared environments and behavioural mimicry.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Sometimes the merging is more purposeful. Artists Genesis P-Orridge and Lady Jaye worked on their Pandrogyne Project for almost two decades, transforming their bodies via $200,000 worth of plastic surgery (including matching breast implants on Valentine\u2019s Day 2003), hormones and styling into one singular creation. Their project framed romantic merging both as devotion and experiment, asking what love looks like when identity itself becomes porous.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>In less extreme, but similar processes, couples are dying their hair matching colours, swapping wardrobes and syncing aesthetics to become a single visual unit. On social media, these synchronised fits, shared skincare routines and \u201cget ready with us\u201d videos can be seen as proof of romantic compatibility. \u2018They work so well visually\u2019 becomes shorthand for \u2018they\u2019re a good match\u2019. \u201cVisual similarity is often read as evidence of cohesion. Culturally, sameness gets interpreted as harmony, even though it tells us very little about how a relationship actually works,\u201d says Dr Van Hooff. \u201cIn image-led and algorithmic spaces, resemblance becomes an easily recognisable sign of intimacy.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"instagram-container embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"media-instagram\" data-script-depends=\"instagram-embeds\">\n<script async src=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/div>\n<div class=\"embed-content\" data-embed-type=\"raw-html\">\n<p><span>In queer culture, this urge to merge is practically a trope. From U-Haul jokes to butch-femme mimicry to TikTok\u2019s lesbian twins aesthetic, lovers folding into one another has long been part of the mythology. Tye, a writer in her 20s, remembers her ex shifting from high-femme long hair to a bleached pixie, the same cut Tye had at the time. \u201cI ended up resenting her for stealing my swag,\u201d she says. For some, mirroring can feel like flattery, until it starts to feel like theft. Olive, an artist in her late 20s, tells me she\u2019s changed with several partners: \u201cI don\u2019t think they took anything from me. But sometimes I wonder if I noticed what I was giving up.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>A lot of us slide into this without realising. Love quietly expands the borders of the self, stretching our habits towards another person. The more intimate we become, the more our sense of who we are begins to include who they are, from sharing the same beauty routine, haircut and brow shape to copying each other\u2019s aesthetics, quirks and even the way we hold ourselves in a room. Desire doesn\u2019t just want closeness; it wants alignment and a way of seeing and being seen that feels mutually recognisable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Aside from a healthy dose of mirroring, an unavoidable part of being in love, merging has a shadow side. Liv, a writer in her 20s, recalls an ex who made her his \u201cproject\u201d. \u201cI was the Bianca to his Ye,\u201d she says. \u201cHe made me throw out my neon thongs and my mini skirts. At 21, he had me dressing like him, a bitter Swedish architect.\u201d And even when a relationship ends, that mirroring doesn\u2019t always stop. For Paris-based artist Lisa Brok, her ex absorbed her aesthetic and reproduced it onto the next girl: \u201cSame hair. Same side fringe. Same styling. Same shots\u201d. In these cases, mirroring stops being intimacy and becomes a form of control, exposing the fine line between fusion and erasure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>\u201cMirroring is a normal part of intimacy, but it becomes concerning when it is no longer mutual or freely chosen. When sameness is expected, monitored, or performed for an audience, it can limit individuality and mask power imbalances within relationships,\u201d warns Dr Van Hooff. 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