{"id":1701691,"date":"2025-12-20T13:15:00","date_gmt":"2025-12-20T10:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1701691"},"modified":"2025-12-20T13:15:00","modified_gmt":"2025-12-20T10:15:00","slug":"how-to-set-and-maintain-healthy-boundaries-without-guilt-according-to-mental-health-experts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/?p=1701691","title":{"rendered":"How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries (Without Guilt), According to Mental Health Experts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><main id=\"main_1-0\" class=\"comp main layout-body--continuous-scroll mntl-block\" data-tracking-container=\"true\"><\/p>\n<article id=\"beauty-article--sc_1-0\" class=\"comp beauty-article--sc beauty-article mntl-article mntl-article--three-column sc-ad-container\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div class=\"loc article-header\">\n<div id=\"article-header_1-0\" class=\"comp article-header mntl-block article-top\">\n<h1 id=\"article-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp article-heading mntl-text-block\">How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries (Without Guilt), According to Mental Health Experts<\/h1>\n<p id=\"article-subheading_1-0\" class=\"comp article-subheading mntl-text-block\">&#8220;No&#8221; is a full sentence.<\/p>\n<div id=\"article-meta_1-0\" class=\"comp article-meta mntl-article-meta mntl-block\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div id=\"bylines_1-0\" class=\"comp bylines beauty-bylines mntl-bylines\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__group_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__group mntl-block mntl-bylines__group--author\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__item_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__item mntl-attribution__item mntl-attribution__item--has-date\"><span class=\"mntl-attribution__item-descriptor\">By<\/span><\/p>\n<div data-tooltip=\"Jessica Estrada is a writer with 10 years of writing and editing experience covering wellness, lifestyle, beauty, and fashion.\" data-inline-tooltip=\"true\"> Jessica 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mntl-toc__heading-text mntl-text-block\">In This Article<\/span><\/div>\n<ul id=\"mntl-toc__list_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list mntl-toc__list-heading expert-content text-utility-300\">\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">When to Set Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">Types of Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">How to Set and Maintain Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li 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mntl-universal-primary-image primary-image\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div class=\"primary-image__media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" class=\" primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" class=\"loaded primary-img--noscript primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"primary-image__figcap_1-0\" class=\"comp primary-image__figcap mntl-figure-caption figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-page_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-page mntl-block\" data-sc-sticky-offset=\"125\" data-sc-ad-label-height=\"16\" data-sc-ad-track-spacing=\"100\" data-sc-min-track-height=\"250\" data-sc-max-track-height=\"600\" data-sc-breakpoint=\"50em\" data-sc-load-immediate=\"5\" data-sc-content-positions=\"[1, 1250, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]\" data-bind-scroll-on-start=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-callout--finalverdict beauty-sc-block-callout mntl-sc-block-callout mntl-block theme-finalverdict\" data-tracking-id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-heading mntl-text-block\">Key Takeaways<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-body_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-body mntl-text-block\">\n<ul>\n<li>Pay close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.<\/li>\n<li>There are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.<\/li>\n<li>To most effectively set and maintain boundaries, it&#8217;s important to clearly clarify your needs, be gentle with yourself, stay open to compromise, and remember it&#8217;s a process.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> We&#8217;re calling it: Boundaries are the new self-care. Though, as many of us experienced during the last few years, it&#8217;s harder than ever to create them. Especially during the holidays or other periods of time spent with family. Everything happening under one roof makes it more challenging to avoid uncomfortable issues in our relationships. It forces us to assess what we really need and is was no longer working. That&#8217;s where boundaries come in.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> &#8220;Boundaries are limits we place on our relationships about what behavior we will and won&#8217;t accept from other people,&#8221; explains licensed therapist Kati Morton. Nicole LePera, Ph.D., of The Holistic Psychologist and author of <em>How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self<\/em>, says boundaries are the foundation of every relationship you have, including the one with yourself. She refers to boundaries as &#8220;the walls or clear limits that protect you from what feels inappropriate, unacceptable, and inauthentic.&#8221; In other words, boundaries may be essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_6-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Ahead, Morton and LePera dive into boundaries, including the different types of boundaries that are important to set and tips on setting and maintaining them.\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_8-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> When to Set Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_9-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">First things first, <em>how<\/em> exactly do you know you need to set a boundary? Morton explains our body is the messenger. For example, if a stranger puts their hand on your back and that makes you feel uncomfortable, that discomfort is your body\u2019s way of telling you something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel exhausted, frustrated, or worn out after an interaction with someone, that\u2019s also a sign they may be overstepping. Morton advises paying close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or certain types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_11-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_1-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_12-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> Types of Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_13-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> You can set boundaries in many different areas of your life, including work, technology, and what you&#8217;re comfortable sharing online. The most common boundaries are in relationships, including romantic, friendships, or work relationships. And there are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.\n<\/p>\n<ul id=\"mntl-sc-block_15-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">\n<li><strong>Mental and emotional boundaries<\/strong>, LePera says, can include who you share your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and emotions with. Morton adds emotional boundaries can also include how you allow someone to speak to you, or how much energy you are willing to invest in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Physical boundaries<\/strong> have to do with how close you allow someone to be to you, physically, and what touch you&#8217;re okay and not okay with.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Resource boundaries<\/strong>, which are also important, LePera explains, are about &#8220;your ability to choose where and how your time is spent.&#8221; This could look like asking for an hour to yourself every afternoon or disconnecting from your phone after 8 p.m.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_17-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> How to Set and Maintain Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_18-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Clarify your needs:<\/strong> The first step in setting any type of boundary is being clear with what exactly you need to communicate to someone and what change that requires of them, Morton says. She recommends writing it out and practicing saying it out loud beforehand, so you don&#8217;t get off topic during the conversation or forget what you want to say in the moment.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_20-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Find the right time: <\/strong>Next up is actually communicating your needs and boundaries with the other person. LePera suggests choosing a time when both parties are not in an emotionally reactive place. For example, Morton shares, after a stressful day or when the other person is in a bad mood is not an ideal time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_22-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Start with a compliment:<\/strong> If you&#8217;re not sure how to kick off the boundary conversation, Morton says beginning with a compliment can go a long way in setting the tone. &#8220;I like to enact what I call the hug and roll technique, where we start the conversation off by complimenting them or thanking them for something, and then move in with the change we hope to see,&#8221; Morton says. &#8220;By starting with kindness, they are more likely to hear us mention the boundary and hopefully be open to the change.&#8221; Focus on how you will respond in new ways.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_24-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be clear:<\/strong> When setting boundaries, LePera recommends not focusing on changing the other person&#8217;s behavior, but instead making a clear statement about how you will respond in new ways if the person continues the behavior. For instance, you can say something like: &#8220;I no longer wish to discuss my food choices. If they are brought up again, I will remove myself from the conversation.&#8221; LePera adds when you communicate your boundary, do so in a &#8220;calm, clear, and assertive way.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_26-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be gentle with yourself:<\/strong> For many people, setting and maintaining boundaries wasn&#8217;t the norm growing up. So when you begin to set them, it can bring up feelings of guilt, and the other party may not always respond like you hoped they would. &#8220;Some people may challenge or push back against your boundaries if you&#8217;ve never set them before,&#8221; LePera says, and that&#8217;s okay. &#8220;As you continue to practice, you&#8217;ll begin to feel less resentment and more confidence.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_28-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Remember, it&#8217;s a process:<\/strong> Boundaries are not often a one-and-done type of deal. Morton notes you&#8217;ll often find yourself having to remind the people in your life of the boundaries you&#8217;ve set, your needs, and why they&#8217;re important. &#8220;Be patient, understanding, and offer some compassion as we all learn new ways of interacting with each other,&#8221; she says. 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The reason? It&#8217;s easier and comfortable because we&#8217;re used to it. Nonetheless, Morton encourages you to continue pushing yourself to maintain your boundaries. &#8220;It will take some time and practice, but it will get easier, and we will all feel better as a result,&#8221; she says.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_33-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be open to compromise:<\/strong> The people you live with are often the people you spend the most time with, and crossing each other&#8217;s boundaries is practically inevitable. Morton\u2019s advice: lots of communication and compromise. Communicate your needs to the people you live with and what&#8217;s okay and not okay with you. Then, be open to compromise to ensure their needs and boundaries are also met. For parents with children, for example, one way to compromise and honor each other&#8217;s needs can be to take turns letting each other have an afternoon off for alone time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_35-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Set boundaries with distanced relationships too:<\/strong> Boundaries are not just reserved for the people we live with. Distanced relationships can also benefit, and discussing it over Zoom, FaceTime, or a phone call may actually make it easier. \u201cBeing distanced from our friends and loved ones does have its advantages when it comes to setting up boundaries for the first time,\u201d Morton says. \u201cWe can space out our online hangouts to give ourselves time to decompress. We can prepare what it is we want to say and how we want to say it.&#8221; For instance, let\u2019s say a friend or family member only calls to talk about their lives without giving you any time to talk about yours. This is something you can set a boundary around so you both have enough time to share and feel good about the interaction.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_37-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> The Bottom Line <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_38-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Allow your boundaries to shift and change. As we continue to live through this this often chaotic moment in time, LePera notes that our needs and limits may change, and that&#8217;s okay. 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id=\"article-subheading_1-0\" class=\"comp article-subheading mntl-text-block\">&#8220;No&#8221; is a full sentence.<\/p>\n<div id=\"article-meta_1-0\" class=\"comp article-meta mntl-article-meta mntl-block\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div id=\"bylines_1-0\" class=\"comp bylines beauty-bylines mntl-bylines\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__group_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__group mntl-block mntl-bylines__group--author\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__item_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__item mntl-attribution__item mntl-attribution__item--has-date\"><span class=\"mntl-attribution__item-descriptor\">By<\/span><\/p>\n<div data-tooltip=\"Jessica Estrada is a writer with 10 years of writing and editing experience covering wellness, lifestyle, beauty, and fashion.\" data-inline-tooltip=\"true\"> Jessica Estrada<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-author-tooltip_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-author-tooltip mntl-tooltip mntl-group\">\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__top 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mntl-author-tooltip__name mntl-attribution__item \">\nJessica Estrada\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"mntl-author-tooltip__social-nav_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-author-tooltip__social-nav beauty-social-nav mntl-social-nav social-nav--tooltip\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<ul class=\"social-nav__list\">\n<li class=\"social-nav__item social-nav__item--instagram\">\n<li class=\"social-nav__item social-nav__item--facebook\">\n<li class=\"social-nav__item social-nav__item--pinterest\">\n<li class=\"social-nav__item social-nav__item--x\"><\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__bio\">\nJessica Estrada is a writer with 10 years of writing and editing experience covering wellness, lifestyle, beauty, and fashion.\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__bottom\">\nByrdie&#8217;s Editorial Guidelines\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mntl-attribution__item-date\">Published on December 20, 2025 08:15AM<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__group_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__group mntl-block mntl-bylines__group--beauty_wellness_reviewer\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__item_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__item mntl-attribution__item \"><span class=\"mntl-attribution__item-descriptor\">Reviewed by<\/span><\/p>\n<div data-tooltip=\"Sanam Hafeez, PsyD is a New York State licensed psychologist and the founder of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services.\" data-inline-tooltip=\"true\"> Sanam Hafeez, PsyD<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-author-tooltip_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-author-tooltip mntl-tooltip mntl-group\">\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__top \">\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__image-wrapper\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"200\" height=\"200\" alt=\"Sanam Hafeez\" class=\"lazyload mntl-author-tooltip__image mntl-image universal-image__image\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/sanam-hafeez-new-659ec4281eab44b38f6d4587ee207abe.webp\" 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PsyD is a New York State licensed psychologist and the founder of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services.\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__bottom\">\nAbout Byrdie&#8217;s Beauty &amp; Wellness Board\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"mntl-attribution__item-postscript\">Psychologist<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__group_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__group mntl-block mntl-bylines__group--fact_checker\">\n<div id=\"mntl-bylines__item_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-bylines__item mntl-attribution__item \"><span class=\"mntl-attribution__item-descriptor\">Fact checked by<\/span><\/p>\n<div data-tooltip=\"Anna Harris is an experienced fact-checker and researcher and a beauty writer and editor.\u00a0\" data-inline-tooltip=\"true\"> Anna Harris<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-author-tooltip_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-author-tooltip mntl-tooltip mntl-group\">\n<div class=\"mntl-author-tooltip__top mntl-author-tooltip__top--no-image\">\n<div 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text-utility-300\">\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">When to Set Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">Types of Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_3-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">How to Set and Maintain Boundaries<\/span><\/div>\n<\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-toc__list-item_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-toc__list-item-heading_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-toc__list-item-heading mntl-block\"><span 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src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" class=\" primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" class=\"loaded primary-img--noscript primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"primary-image__figcap_1-0\" class=\"comp primary-image__figcap mntl-figure-caption figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-page_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-page mntl-block\" data-sc-sticky-offset=\"125\" data-sc-ad-label-height=\"16\" data-sc-ad-track-spacing=\"100\" data-sc-min-track-height=\"250\" data-sc-max-track-height=\"600\" data-sc-breakpoint=\"50em\" data-sc-load-immediate=\"5\" data-sc-content-positions=\"[1, 1250, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]\" data-bind-scroll-on-start=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-callout--finalverdict beauty-sc-block-callout mntl-sc-block-callout mntl-block theme-finalverdict\" data-tracking-id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-heading mntl-text-block\">Key Takeaways<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-body_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-body mntl-text-block\">\n<ul>\n<li>Pay close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.<\/li>\n<li>There are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.<\/li>\n<li>To most effectively set and maintain boundaries, it&#8217;s important to clearly clarify your needs, be gentle with yourself, stay open to compromise, and remember it&#8217;s a process.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> We&#8217;re calling it: Boundaries are the new self-care. Though, as many of us experienced during the last few years, it&#8217;s harder than ever to create them. Especially during the holidays or other periods of time spent with family. Everything happening under one roof makes it more challenging to avoid uncomfortable issues in our relationships. It forces us to assess what we really need and is was no longer working. That&#8217;s where boundaries come in.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> &#8220;Boundaries are limits we place on our relationships about what behavior we will and won&#8217;t accept from other people,&#8221; explains licensed therapist Kati Morton. Nicole LePera, Ph.D., of The Holistic Psychologist and author of <em>How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self<\/em>, says boundaries are the foundation of every relationship you have, including the one with yourself. She refers to boundaries as &#8220;the walls or clear limits that protect you from what feels inappropriate, unacceptable, and inauthentic.&#8221; In other words, boundaries may be essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_6-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Ahead, Morton and LePera dive into boundaries, including the different types of boundaries that are important to set and tips on setting and maintaining them.\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_8-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> When to Set Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_9-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">First things first, <em>how<\/em> exactly do you know you need to set a boundary? Morton explains our body is the messenger. For example, if a stranger puts their hand on your back and that makes you feel uncomfortable, that discomfort is your body\u2019s way of telling you something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel exhausted, frustrated, or worn out after an interaction with someone, that\u2019s also a sign they may be overstepping. Morton advises paying close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or certain types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_11-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_1-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_12-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> Types of Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_13-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> You can set boundaries in many different areas of your life, including work, technology, and what you&#8217;re comfortable sharing online. The most common boundaries are in relationships, including romantic, friendships, or work relationships. And there are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.\n<\/p>\n<ul id=\"mntl-sc-block_15-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">\n<li><strong>Mental and emotional boundaries<\/strong>, LePera says, can include who you share your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and emotions with. Morton adds emotional boundaries can also include how you allow someone to speak to you, or how much energy you are willing to invest in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Physical boundaries<\/strong> have to do with how close you allow someone to be to you, physically, and what touch you&#8217;re okay and not okay with.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Resource boundaries<\/strong>, which are also important, LePera explains, are about &#8220;your ability to choose where and how your time is spent.&#8221; This could look like asking for an hour to yourself every afternoon or disconnecting from your phone after 8 p.m.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_17-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> How to Set and Maintain Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_18-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Clarify your needs:<\/strong> The first step in setting any type of boundary is being clear with what exactly you need to communicate to someone and what change that requires of them, Morton says. She recommends writing it out and practicing saying it out loud beforehand, so you don&#8217;t get off topic during the conversation or forget what you want to say in the moment.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_20-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Find the right time: <\/strong>Next up is actually communicating your needs and boundaries with the other person. LePera suggests choosing a time when both parties are not in an emotionally reactive place. For example, Morton shares, after a stressful day or when the other person is in a bad mood is not an ideal time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_22-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Start with a compliment:<\/strong> If you&#8217;re not sure how to kick off the boundary conversation, Morton says beginning with a compliment can go a long way in setting the tone. &#8220;I like to enact what I call the hug and roll technique, where we start the conversation off by complimenting them or thanking them for something, and then move in with the change we hope to see,&#8221; Morton says. &#8220;By starting with kindness, they are more likely to hear us mention the boundary and hopefully be open to the change.&#8221; Focus on how you will respond in new ways.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_24-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be clear:<\/strong> When setting boundaries, LePera recommends not focusing on changing the other person&#8217;s behavior, but instead making a clear statement about how you will respond in new ways if the person continues the behavior. For instance, you can say something like: &#8220;I no longer wish to discuss my food choices. If they are brought up again, I will remove myself from the conversation.&#8221; LePera adds when you communicate your boundary, do so in a &#8220;calm, clear, and assertive way.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_26-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be gentle with yourself:<\/strong> For many people, setting and maintaining boundaries wasn&#8217;t the norm growing up. So when you begin to set them, it can bring up feelings of guilt, and the other party may not always respond like you hoped they would. &#8220;Some people may challenge or push back against your boundaries if you&#8217;ve never set them before,&#8221; LePera says, and that&#8217;s okay. &#8220;As you continue to practice, you&#8217;ll begin to feel less resentment and more confidence.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_28-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Remember, it&#8217;s a process:<\/strong> Boundaries are not often a one-and-done type of deal. Morton notes you&#8217;ll often find yourself having to remind the people in your life of the boundaries you&#8217;ve set, your needs, and why they&#8217;re important. &#8220;Be patient, understanding, and offer some compassion as we all learn new ways of interacting with each other,&#8221; she says. We&#8217;re all still trying to navigate new normals.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_30-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_2-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_31-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be mindful:<\/strong> That said, Morton adds it&#8217;s also normal to fall back into old ways of engaging in relationships. The reason? It&#8217;s easier and comfortable because we&#8217;re used to it. Nonetheless, Morton encourages you to continue pushing yourself to maintain your boundaries. &#8220;It will take some time and practice, but it will get easier, and we will all feel better as a result,&#8221; she says.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_33-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be open to compromise:<\/strong> The people you live with are often the people you spend the most time with, and crossing each other&#8217;s boundaries is practically inevitable. Morton\u2019s advice: lots of communication and compromise. Communicate your needs to the people you live with and what&#8217;s okay and not okay with you. Then, be open to compromise to ensure their needs and boundaries are also met. For parents with children, for example, one way to compromise and honor each other&#8217;s needs can be to take turns letting each other have an afternoon off for alone time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_35-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Set boundaries with distanced relationships too:<\/strong> Boundaries are not just reserved for the people we live with. Distanced relationships can also benefit, and discussing it over Zoom, FaceTime, or a phone call may actually make it easier. \u201cBeing distanced from our friends and loved ones does have its advantages when it comes to setting up boundaries for the first time,\u201d Morton says. \u201cWe can space out our online hangouts to give ourselves time to decompress. We can prepare what it is we want to say and how we want to say it.&#8221; For instance, let\u2019s say a friend or family member only calls to talk about their lives without giving you any time to talk about yours. This is something you can set a boundary around so you both have enough time to share and feel good about the interaction.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_37-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> The Bottom Line <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_38-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Allow your boundaries to shift and change. As we continue to live through this this often chaotic moment in time, LePera notes that our needs and limits may change, and that&#8217;s okay. She advises allowing yourself to continue to shift and change your boundaries around your space, time, and relationships as needed in an intentional way so you can continue to feel a sense of self.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"loc article-post-content\">\n<div id=\"beauty-breadcrumbs--chips_1-0\" class=\"comp beauty-breadcrumbs--chips mntl-universal-breadcrumbs--chips mntl-block\">\n<div id=\"mntl-breadcrumbs__read-more_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-breadcrumbs__read-more mntl-text-block text-title-100\">Read more:<\/div>\n<ul id=\"mntl-universal-breadcrumbs_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-universal-breadcrumbs mntl-block text-label-300 breadcrumbs\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<li id=\"mntl-breadcrumbs__item_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-breadcrumbs__item mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">Health &amp; Wellness<\/span><\/li>\n<li id=\"mntl-breadcrumbs__item_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-breadcrumbs__item mntl-block\"><span class=\"link__wrapper\">Mental Health &amp; Mood<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<div class=\"loc article-content\">\n<div id=\"article__broad-video-jw_1-0\" class=\"comp article__broad-video-jw mntl-jwplayer-broad mntl-block is-hidden\" data-pixel-depth=\"100\">\n<div id=\"mntl-jwplayer-broad__title_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-jwplayer-broad__title mntl-block\"><button id=\"mntl-jwplayer-broad__title-icon--close_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-jwplayer-broad__title-icon--close mntl-block text-label-100\" data-click-tracked=\"false\"><span id=\"mntl-text-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-text-block\">Close<\/span><\/button><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"mntl-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-block article__body right-rail\">\n<figure id=\"mntl-universal-primary-image_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-universal-primary-image primary-image\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<div class=\"primary-image__media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" class=\" primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"960\" class=\"loaded primary-img--noscript primary-image__image mntl-primary-image--blurry\" alt=\"Person struggling to carry multiple rolls documents and a bag in a hallway\" title=\"set-and-maintain-boundaries-8864b8cc08354613a884721dcbb39c5b-1\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"primary-image__figcap_1-0\" class=\"comp primary-image__figcap mntl-figure-caption figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-page_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-page mntl-block\" data-sc-sticky-offset=\"125\" data-sc-ad-label-height=\"16\" data-sc-ad-track-spacing=\"100\" data-sc-min-track-height=\"250\" data-sc-max-track-height=\"600\" data-sc-breakpoint=\"50em\" data-sc-load-immediate=\"5\" data-sc-content-positions=\"[1, 1250, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]\" data-bind-scroll-on-start=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-callout--finalverdict beauty-sc-block-callout mntl-sc-block-callout mntl-block theme-finalverdict\" data-tracking-id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-heading mntl-text-block\">Key Takeaways<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-body_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-body mntl-text-block\">\n<ul>\n<li>Pay close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.<\/li>\n<li>There are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.<\/li>\n<li>To most effectively set and maintain boundaries, it&#8217;s important to clearly clarify your needs, be gentle with yourself, stay open to compromise, and remember it&#8217;s a process.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> We&#8217;re calling it: Boundaries are the new self-care. Though, as many of us experienced during the last few years, it&#8217;s harder than ever to create them. Especially during the holidays or other periods of time spent with family. Everything happening under one roof makes it more challenging to avoid uncomfortable issues in our relationships. It forces us to assess what we really need and is was no longer working. That&#8217;s where boundaries come in.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> &#8220;Boundaries are limits we place on our relationships about what behavior we will and won&#8217;t accept from other people,&#8221; explains licensed therapist Kati Morton. Nicole LePera, Ph.D., of The Holistic Psychologist and author of <em>How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self<\/em>, says boundaries are the foundation of every relationship you have, including the one with yourself. She refers to boundaries as &#8220;the walls or clear limits that protect you from what feels inappropriate, unacceptable, and inauthentic.&#8221; In other words, boundaries may be essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_6-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Ahead, Morton and LePera dive into boundaries, including the different types of boundaries that are important to set and tips on setting and maintaining them.\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_8-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> When to Set Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_9-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">First things first, <em>how<\/em> exactly do you know you need to set a boundary? Morton explains our body is the messenger. For example, if a stranger puts their hand on your back and that makes you feel uncomfortable, that discomfort is your body\u2019s way of telling you something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel exhausted, frustrated, or worn out after an interaction with someone, that\u2019s also a sign they may be overstepping. Morton advises paying close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or certain types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_11-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_1-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_12-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> Types of Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_13-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> You can set boundaries in many different areas of your life, including work, technology, and what you&#8217;re comfortable sharing online. The most common boundaries are in relationships, including romantic, friendships, or work relationships. And there are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.\n<\/p>\n<ul id=\"mntl-sc-block_15-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">\n<li><strong>Mental and emotional boundaries<\/strong>, LePera says, can include who you share your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and emotions with. Morton adds emotional boundaries can also include how you allow someone to speak to you, or how much energy you are willing to invest in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Physical boundaries<\/strong> have to do with how close you allow someone to be to you, physically, and what touch you&#8217;re okay and not okay with.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Resource boundaries<\/strong>, which are also important, LePera explains, are about &#8220;your ability to choose where and how your time is spent.&#8221; This could look like asking for an hour to yourself every afternoon or disconnecting from your phone after 8 p.m.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_17-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> How to Set and Maintain Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_18-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Clarify your needs:<\/strong> The first step in setting any type of boundary is being clear with what exactly you need to communicate to someone and what change that requires of them, Morton says. She recommends writing it out and practicing saying it out loud beforehand, so you don&#8217;t get off topic during the conversation or forget what you want to say in the moment.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_20-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Find the right time: <\/strong>Next up is actually communicating your needs and boundaries with the other person. LePera suggests choosing a time when both parties are not in an emotionally reactive place. For example, Morton shares, after a stressful day or when the other person is in a bad mood is not an ideal time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_22-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Start with a compliment:<\/strong> If you&#8217;re not sure how to kick off the boundary conversation, Morton says beginning with a compliment can go a long way in setting the tone. &#8220;I like to enact what I call the hug and roll technique, where we start the conversation off by complimenting them or thanking them for something, and then move in with the change we hope to see,&#8221; Morton says. &#8220;By starting with kindness, they are more likely to hear us mention the boundary and hopefully be open to the change.&#8221; Focus on how you will respond in new ways.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_24-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be clear:<\/strong> When setting boundaries, LePera recommends not focusing on changing the other person&#8217;s behavior, but instead making a clear statement about how you will respond in new ways if the person continues the behavior. For instance, you can say something like: &#8220;I no longer wish to discuss my food choices. If they are brought up again, I will remove myself from the conversation.&#8221; LePera adds when you communicate your boundary, do so in a &#8220;calm, clear, and assertive way.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_26-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be gentle with yourself:<\/strong> For many people, setting and maintaining boundaries wasn&#8217;t the norm growing up. So when you begin to set them, it can bring up feelings of guilt, and the other party may not always respond like you hoped they would. &#8220;Some people may challenge or push back against your boundaries if you&#8217;ve never set them before,&#8221; LePera says, and that&#8217;s okay. &#8220;As you continue to practice, you&#8217;ll begin to feel less resentment and more confidence.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_28-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Remember, it&#8217;s a process:<\/strong> Boundaries are not often a one-and-done type of deal. Morton notes you&#8217;ll often find yourself having to remind the people in your life of the boundaries you&#8217;ve set, your needs, and why they&#8217;re important. &#8220;Be patient, understanding, and offer some compassion as we all learn new ways of interacting with each other,&#8221; she says. We&#8217;re all still trying to navigate new normals.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_30-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_2-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_31-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be mindful:<\/strong> That said, Morton adds it&#8217;s also normal to fall back into old ways of engaging in relationships. The reason? It&#8217;s easier and comfortable because we&#8217;re used to it. Nonetheless, Morton encourages you to continue pushing yourself to maintain your boundaries. &#8220;It will take some time and practice, but it will get easier, and we will all feel better as a result,&#8221; she says.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_33-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be open to compromise:<\/strong> The people you live with are often the people you spend the most time with, and crossing each other&#8217;s boundaries is practically inevitable. Morton\u2019s advice: lots of communication and compromise. Communicate your needs to the people you live with and what&#8217;s okay and not okay with you. Then, be open to compromise to ensure their needs and boundaries are also met. For parents with children, for example, one way to compromise and honor each other&#8217;s needs can be to take turns letting each other have an afternoon off for alone time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_35-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Set boundaries with distanced relationships too:<\/strong> Boundaries are not just reserved for the people we live with. Distanced relationships can also benefit, and discussing it over Zoom, FaceTime, or a phone call may actually make it easier. \u201cBeing distanced from our friends and loved ones does have its advantages when it comes to setting up boundaries for the first time,\u201d Morton says. \u201cWe can space out our online hangouts to give ourselves time to decompress. We can prepare what it is we want to say and how we want to say it.&#8221; For instance, let\u2019s say a friend or family member only calls to talk about their lives without giving you any time to talk about yours. This is something you can set a boundary around so you both have enough time to share and feel good about the interaction.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_37-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> The Bottom Line <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_38-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Allow your boundaries to shift and change. As we continue to live through this this often chaotic moment in time, LePera notes that our needs and limits may change, and that&#8217;s okay. She advises allowing yourself to continue to shift and change your boundaries around your space, time, and relationships as needed in an intentional way so you can continue to feel a sense of self.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-page_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-page mntl-block\" data-sc-sticky-offset=\"125\" data-sc-ad-label-height=\"16\" data-sc-ad-track-spacing=\"100\" data-sc-min-track-height=\"250\" data-sc-max-track-height=\"600\" data-sc-breakpoint=\"50em\" data-sc-load-immediate=\"5\" data-sc-content-positions=\"[1, 1250, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1]\" data-bind-scroll-on-start=\"true\">\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-callout--finalverdict beauty-sc-block-callout mntl-sc-block-callout mntl-block theme-finalverdict\" data-tracking-id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout\" data-tracking-container=\"true\">\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-heading_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-heading mntl-text-block\">Key Takeaways<\/p>\n<div id=\"mntl-sc-block-callout-body_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block-callout-body mntl-text-block\">\n<ul>\n<li>Pay close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.<\/li>\n<li>There are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.<\/li>\n<li>To most effectively set and maintain boundaries, it&#8217;s important to clearly clarify your needs, be gentle with yourself, stay open to compromise, and remember it&#8217;s a process.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> We&#8217;re calling it: Boundaries are the new self-care. Though, as many of us experienced during the last few years, it&#8217;s harder than ever to create them. Especially during the holidays or other periods of time spent with family. Everything happening under one roof makes it more challenging to avoid uncomfortable issues in our relationships. It forces us to assess what we really need and is was no longer working. That&#8217;s where boundaries come in.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_4-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> &#8220;Boundaries are limits we place on our relationships about what behavior we will and won&#8217;t accept from other people,&#8221; explains licensed therapist Kati Morton. Nicole LePera, Ph.D., of The Holistic Psychologist and author of <em>How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self<\/em>, says boundaries are the foundation of every relationship you have, including the one with yourself. She refers to boundaries as &#8220;the walls or clear limits that protect you from what feels inappropriate, unacceptable, and inauthentic.&#8221; In other words, boundaries may be essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_6-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Ahead, Morton and LePera dive into boundaries, including the different types of boundaries that are important to set and tips on setting and maintaining them.\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_8-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> When to Set Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_9-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">First things first, <em>how<\/em> exactly do you know you need to set a boundary? Morton explains our body is the messenger. For example, if a stranger puts their hand on your back and that makes you feel uncomfortable, that discomfort is your body\u2019s way of telling you something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel exhausted, frustrated, or worn out after an interaction with someone, that\u2019s also a sign they may be overstepping. Morton advises paying close attention to how you <em>feel<\/em> before and after interactions with people or certain types of situations to help you assess where boundaries need to be set to protect yourself.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_11-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_1-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"An artistic double exposure image of a womans face and upper body\" title=\"boundaries-2-2109d1c6256441368b2869700e94f9e3\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_1-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_12-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> Types of Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_13-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> You can set boundaries in many different areas of your life, including work, technology, and what you&#8217;re comfortable sharing online. The most common boundaries are in relationships, including romantic, friendships, or work relationships. And there are different <em>types<\/em> of boundaries you can set, including mental, emotional, physical, and resource boundaries, according to our experts.\n<\/p>\n<ul id=\"mntl-sc-block_15-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\">\n<li><strong>Mental and emotional boundaries<\/strong>, LePera says, can include who you share your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, and emotions with. Morton adds emotional boundaries can also include how you allow someone to speak to you, or how much energy you are willing to invest in a relationship.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Physical boundaries<\/strong> have to do with how close you allow someone to be to you, physically, and what touch you&#8217;re okay and not okay with.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Resource boundaries<\/strong>, which are also important, LePera explains, are about &#8220;your ability to choose where and how your time is spent.&#8221; This could look like asking for an hour to yourself every afternoon or disconnecting from your phone after 8 p.m.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_17-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> How to Set and Maintain Boundaries <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_18-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Clarify your needs:<\/strong> The first step in setting any type of boundary is being clear with what exactly you need to communicate to someone and what change that requires of them, Morton says. She recommends writing it out and practicing saying it out loud beforehand, so you don&#8217;t get off topic during the conversation or forget what you want to say in the moment.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_20-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Find the right time: <\/strong>Next up is actually communicating your needs and boundaries with the other person. LePera suggests choosing a time when both parties are not in an emotionally reactive place. For example, Morton shares, after a stressful day or when the other person is in a bad mood is not an ideal time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_22-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Start with a compliment:<\/strong> If you&#8217;re not sure how to kick off the boundary conversation, Morton says beginning with a compliment can go a long way in setting the tone. &#8220;I like to enact what I call the hug and roll technique, where we start the conversation off by complimenting them or thanking them for something, and then move in with the change we hope to see,&#8221; Morton says. &#8220;By starting with kindness, they are more likely to hear us mention the boundary and hopefully be open to the change.&#8221; Focus on how you will respond in new ways.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_24-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be clear:<\/strong> When setting boundaries, LePera recommends not focusing on changing the other person&#8217;s behavior, but instead making a clear statement about how you will respond in new ways if the person continues the behavior. For instance, you can say something like: &#8220;I no longer wish to discuss my food choices. If they are brought up again, I will remove myself from the conversation.&#8221; LePera adds when you communicate your boundary, do so in a &#8220;calm, clear, and assertive way.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_26-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be gentle with yourself:<\/strong> For many people, setting and maintaining boundaries wasn&#8217;t the norm growing up. So when you begin to set them, it can bring up feelings of guilt, and the other party may not always respond like you hoped they would. &#8220;Some people may challenge or push back against your boundaries if you&#8217;ve never set them before,&#8221; LePera says, and that&#8217;s okay. &#8220;As you continue to practice, you&#8217;ll begin to feel less resentment and more confidence.&#8221;\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_28-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Remember, it&#8217;s a process:<\/strong> Boundaries are not often a one-and-done type of deal. Morton notes you&#8217;ll often find yourself having to remind the people in your life of the boundaries you&#8217;ve set, your needs, and why they&#8217;re important. &#8220;Be patient, understanding, and offer some compassion as we all learn new ways of interacting with each other,&#8221; she says. We&#8217;re all still trying to navigate new normals.\n<\/p>\n<figure id=\"mntl-sc-block_30-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-image--theme-3 beauty-sc-block-image mntl-sc-block-image theme-3 u-no-article-width-restriction figure-portrait figure-high-res\">\n<div class=\"figure-media\">\n<div class=\"img-placeholder\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" class=\"lazyload mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" id=\"mntl-sc-block-image_2-0\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/analyse.optim.biz\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742.webp\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1600\" class=\"img--noscript mntl-image mntl-image universal-image__image\" alt=\"A person in a jacket in front of a wall with photo collages and color samples\" title=\"boundaries-1-96116da4243c4fa3918efb3c06b8d742\"><\/div>\n<\/div><figcaption id=\"mntl-figure-caption_2-0\" class=\"comp mntl-figure-caption text-utility-100 figure-article-caption\"><span class=\"figure-article-caption-owner\"><\/p>\n<p>Death to Stock<\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_31-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be mindful:<\/strong> That said, Morton adds it&#8217;s also normal to fall back into old ways of engaging in relationships. The reason? It&#8217;s easier and comfortable because we&#8217;re used to it. Nonetheless, Morton encourages you to continue pushing yourself to maintain your boundaries. &#8220;It will take some time and practice, but it will get easier, and we will all feel better as a result,&#8221; she says.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_33-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Be open to compromise:<\/strong> The people you live with are often the people you spend the most time with, and crossing each other&#8217;s boundaries is practically inevitable. Morton\u2019s advice: lots of communication and compromise. Communicate your needs to the people you live with and what&#8217;s okay and not okay with you. Then, be open to compromise to ensure their needs and boundaries are also met. For parents with children, for example, one way to compromise and honor each other&#8217;s needs can be to take turns letting each other have an afternoon off for alone time.\n<\/p>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_35-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"><strong>Set boundaries with distanced relationships too:<\/strong> Boundaries are not just reserved for the people we live with. Distanced relationships can also benefit, and discussing it over Zoom, FaceTime, or a phone call may actually make it easier. \u201cBeing distanced from our friends and loved ones does have its advantages when it comes to setting up boundaries for the first time,\u201d Morton says. \u201cWe can space out our online hangouts to give ourselves time to decompress. We can prepare what it is we want to say and how we want to say it.&#8221; For instance, let\u2019s say a friend or family member only calls to talk about their lives without giving you any time to talk about yours. This is something you can set a boundary around so you both have enough time to share and feel good about the interaction.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"mntl-sc-block_37-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-heading mntl-sc-block-heading\"><span class=\"mntl-sc-block-heading__text text-title-300\"> The Bottom Line <\/span><\/h2>\n<p id=\"mntl-sc-block_38-0\" class=\"comp mntl-sc-block beauty-sc-block-html mntl-sc-block-html\"> Allow your boundaries to shift and change. As we continue to live through this this often chaotic moment in time, LePera notes that our needs and limits may change, and that&#8217;s okay. She advises allowing yourself to continue to shift and change your boundaries around your space, time, and relationships as needed in an intentional way so you can continue to feel a sense of self.\u00a0\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p> Source URL: https:\/\/www.byrdie.com\/how-to-set-and-maintain-healthy-boundaries-11863054<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries (Without Guilt), According to Mental Health Experts &#8220;No&#8221; is a full sentence. By Jessica Estrada Jessica Estrada Jessica Estrada is a writer with 10 years of writing and editing experience covering wellness, lifestyle, beauty, and fashion. 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